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The Observe and Rapport Newsletter
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A weekly guide of my favorite books, articles, products, and lifestyle habits.
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January 27th, 2022 | by Kyle Brennan
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1) The Time Value of Relationships
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- 40 hours of spending time with someone to consider them a "casual" friend
- 100 hours to be considered a "good" friend
- 200 hours is a "great" friend
Don't rush into relationships. It takes far more than 3 dates (only 7-8 hours) even to get to know someone casually.
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- The CDC released a study that the average human has 167 thoughts per day, but 97% of those thoughts are the same ones from the previous day.
3) The 10-10-10 Advantage of Books š
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- Books allow you to download 10 years of knowledge in 10 hours for just $10
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What I'm Reading
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Another must-read!š
Doesn't matter if you're an athlete, a surgeon, an artist, or a stay-at-home parent - everyone will benefit from the extraordinary life lessons from one of the greatest basketball coaches of all time.
John Wooden was born in 1910 and lead the UCLA Men's Basketball team to 10 national championships in 12 years in the '60s and 70s. Over the course of his coaching (and teaching) career, he developed a legendary approach to success (you may be familiar with Ron Swanson's mention of his Pyramid of Success in Parks & Rec)
I'm obsessed with old All-American success stories like John Wooden, Sam Walton, and Dale Carnegie. They had principles and they stuck to them through thick and thin. Their faith, integrity, and most importantly, their character proved to be their ultimate guiding light, and what gave them prosperity and peace of mind. This is a book I know I'll be revisiting many times over the course of my life, as the lessons prove to be timeless.
Rating: 5 / 5 āļøāļøāļøāļøāļø
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Writing Advice
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Another great writing tidbit I recently heard: If you’re writing and feel the need to use an exclamation point, you subconsciously know your words aren’t vivid enough. Drop the exclamation point and rewrite the sentence.
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What I'm Listening To
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Latest Medium Post
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A coworker convinced me to take the Myers-Briggs personality test to find out what my characteristics look like. It was actually much more illuminating than I expected. I recently listened to a podcast with former CIA covert intelligence officer, Andrew Bustamente. He explained that the Myers-Briggs test is considered one of the most reliable sources for accurately predicting an individual’s personality characteristics.
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The MBTI makes the claim that your core personality does not change. Your core personality is your personality when all resources are removed. Essentially, your emergency mode. We can all act a little more extroverted, or a little more empathetic when we have time, money, and patience. But when you strip away all of that time, money, and patience, how empathetic are you? How much do you like being around other people? Do you prefer being alone? Do you make judgments? Do you analyze information?
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Known as the "Architect" personality, an INTJ is a thoughtful tactician who loves perfecting the details of life, applying creativity and rationality to everything they do.
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Introverted. I prefer to work alone. I'm self-confident and hard-working, which is a strength, however, it can also be a weakness and I may come across as insensitive or callous.
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Intuitive. I remember events by what I read "between the lines" about their meaning. I solve problems by leaping between different ideas and possibilities. Sometimes I think so much about new possibilities that I never look at how to make them a reality
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Thinking. I look for logical explanations or solutions to almost everything, which can be seen as too task-oriented, uncaring, or indifferent.
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Judging. I like to have things settled and organized. I feel more comfortable when decisions are made and I like to bring life under control as much as possible.
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INTJ is the third rarest type in the population and the rarest type among women. INTJs make up only 2% of the general population
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Famous INTJs include Hillary Clinton, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Stephen Hawking, Thomas Jefferson, and Bill Gates.
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Check Out Our Latest Podcast Episode
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Keith and Kyle sit down to discuss The Osage Reign of Terror, the birth of the FBI, book recommendations for beginners, and how obsessive behavior can be beneficial.
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Quote of the Week
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"If there is a gap in how our parents raised us, we look to others to fill it. And if there is a gift in how our parents raised us, we look to others to give us the same."
- Jay Shetty (@jayshetty)
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What's on My Reading List?
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Kyle's Published Work
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33 Life Lessons on My 33rdĀ Birthday
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Thirty-three was a big one. Mostly because I became a dad. Our daughter was born on New Yearās Eveāāāa fitting arrival for a kid destined to reset everything. Itās been a beautiful, if slightly sleep-deprived blur ever since. Iāve only been āDadā for less than ten months, but if Iām being honest, Iāve been preparing for the role for over …
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Depth Over Downloads: Why Spending Time with Books Still Matters
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Everyone wants faster information. But no one asks if faster information leads to better understanding ā or a better life. In the age of AI and tweet-sized wisdom, weāve confusedĀ informationĀ withĀ transformation. But thereās a massive difference between knowing what a book says and beingĀ changedĀ by it. The Delusion of Instant Learning In a recentĀ interview, political journalist Ezra Klein admitted he once believed …
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The Jack Reacher Approach to Never Being Caught Off Guard
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Thereās no difference between a pessimist who says, āOh, itās hopeless, so donāt bother doing anything,ā and an optimist who says, āDonāt bother doing anything, itās going to turn out fine anyway.ā Either way, nothing happens.ā ā āYvon Chouinard, Founder of Patagonia I donāt read much fiction, but Iāve always been hooked on Lee ChildāsĀ Jack Reacher. Heās not your typical …
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