Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl wrote, "When a man can't find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure." When I'm not doing the activities that fulfill me - writing, hanging out with friends, being active and social - I have a tendency to fall into bad habits. I go into avoidance mode; I …
How Books Changed My Life
Lauren and I were sitting at our kitchen table last night, splitting a bottle of red wine when she asked me quite bluntly, "What is your purpose in life?" We tend to get into these deep philosophical discussions from time to time (with the aid of some wine). Every now and then, it's fun to …
The Wave of Life: Four Thousand Weeks and the Preciousness of Time
In his book Four Thousand Weeks, Oliver Burkeman proposes "...life is just a process of engaging with problem after problem, giving each one the time it requires... the presence of problems in your life, in other words, isn't an impediment to a meaningful existence but the very substance of one" Reading this, I recollected a …
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30 Life Lessons (I feel to be helpful but which I don’t always follow) on My 30th Birthday
At the Rise for the River benefit concert in Montana just a few months ago, John Mayer interrupted his solo acoustic performance to talk about his 2012 album, Born & Raised. It happens to be one of my favorite albums. When he paused to reflect on the record, John began speaking about his deep love …
Flying by the Seat of Our Pants
Imposter Syndrome: doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. I first felt imposter syndrome when I became a starting player in my first varsity game. I felt that same denial on my first day at college, my first promotion, and my first big title and salary increase. While I was accomplishing exactly the things …
Five Ways to Feel Your Best Right Now
June 6th, 2022 - Huntington, New York I feel like shit I've been going to the gym 3-4 times a week for the last six months, walking 10,000+ steps per day, running three miles twice a week, doing yoga and stretching regularly. Yet, here I am, feeling like shit. Lately, I've been feeling more lethargic …
The One… How Did You Know?
The other week I met some coworkers for drinks. After a few rounds, we started to ask each other deep philosophical questions about life and love. Alcohol will do that... One person noticed the ring on my finger. She was younger and still in a new relationship. Curious as to how I made the decision …
Keeping Your Word to Yourself
I recently saw a clip on social media that resonated with me. In the thirty-second clip, entrepreneur Ed Mylett explains how self-confidence is someone who keeps promises to themselves. It's 1,000% true. In order to truly be your most fulfilled self, you must have trust in yourself and your reputation. I, and many of my …
100 Tips for a Better Life
I have always loved compiling lists - quotes, jokes, favorite songs, bucket lists, on and on. One thing I began doing a bit later in life was developing a list of great life advice. You may have seen my previous post 29 Life Lessons on My 29th Birthday, that does exactly that. I always keep …
Why It’s a Good Idea to Listen to Opposing Viewpoints
It is never about me being right and you being wrong. It is always about listening with respect to another's opinion. Perhaps like me, you have been completely and utterly confused by the terms mis- and dis-information entering the zeitgeist out of nowhere; like they were suddenly sprung up in a lab to spread across …
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